Honesty. A lot of the times, it is the only thing we really want from someone. It may not be what we would like it to hear but deep down, we want it. I think what my made my last blog post about not getting into the public relations program interesting to others was the honesty I had about my emotions and the aftermath of the situation. When others are honest with us, we connect with them because they say what we think, have felt what we feel, or have experienced what we fear.
Sometimes a friend will comment about how positive I am but the truth is, some days if I wasnt positive then I would crumble right before your eyes. Positivity and the smalls win I get from being positive and determined is what keeps me strong. Those moments where I can cheer up a friend or give them advice give me a certain happiness. . .but that doesn’t mean I don’t get hurt.
I’ve loved and then felt broken. I’ve trusted and been crushed. I’ve forgiven, trusted again but been hurt again. I’ve believed in a dream and didn’t get to live it. I think what gets me through these moments are knowing that they just make me a stronger person. Do I still long for the friendships that once were? Do I sometimes sit and smile about the memories I once experienced or dreams I once wanted? Of course! With reliving those memories and dreams, eventually reality sets back in and I remember how things are now. But I believe that everything is a learning experience if we take the time to think “what happened and what can I learn from this?” Then use those thoughts as the spark for a fire and get back out there making things happen for you.
Honestly, I will probably always trust in people, especially those I have a history with. I will always believe in my dreams because they set the bar for my life and I aim high. Trusting in people isn’t the same as trusting in dreams though. I don’t know if people necessarily change but I think they can open their eyes to a situation that has happened and grow from it. They can recognize what happened and take the necessary steps for it not to happen again and/or make amends. Maybe it isn’t all one side’s fault as once thought and down the line both sides will have a conversation and move forward.
When someone does something bad to us or we don’t get the outcome we want after dreaming that we would, we can’t just put our life on hold. We have to be proactive in making the next positive thing happen. This may be asking out that cute person we see a lot after just being rejected by someone else. Being proactive could be spending some time getting to know yourself again after dealing with a difficult incident or simply putting a genuine smile on our face after being sad for long enough.
My point to all of this is. . .proactivity, positivity, and honesty with ourselves and others can be a great bond that inspires those around us, gives us strength each day, and the keys to life we each want. Trust in these things, and who knows in what great direction life may go for you. “The purpose of life, after all, is to live it, to taste experience to the utmost, to reach out eagerly and without fear for newer and richer experiences.” – Eleanor Roosevelt.