A friend shared with me this great article by Mark Manson , but if you allow it, this article extends beyond sexuality and even dating but to friendships and work. I aim to stick to original content, but found this truly inspiring with great points. More vulgar than usual posts, but let’s all say, “Fuck Yes” to pursuing what we want, because we’re worth it.
Question: Why would you ever choose to be with someone who is not excited to be with you?
There’s a grey area in dating many people get hung up on — a grey area where feelings are ambiguous or one person has stronger feelings than the other. This grey area causes real, tangible issues. As a man, a huge question is often whether to be persistent and continue pursuing a woman even when she seems lukewarm or hot/cold on your advances. For women, a common question is what to do with men who make their feelings ambiguous.
“She said she’s not interested, but she still flirts with me, so what do I need to do to get her?”
- Fuck Yes or No (markmanson.net)
3 thoughts on “Fuck Yes or No”
People would never leave the house if they followed this advice. Humanity would go extinct. It’s rare enough to feel “fuck yes” about a person, and two people almost never feel that way reciprocally. There’s a reason people play games. I’ve seen it work better in friendships, but even then, helping a lonely person will not always feel like “fuck yes” but still I’ve found it worthwhile. When it comes to work, few people have the luxury of choosing jobs they only feel “fuck yes” about.
I can definitely understand what you’re saying. “Fuck yes” is more so meant to be a guidance of living your life in a manner that fulfills you. Don’t settle for opportunities in dating won’t uplift you in some manner. Don’t take a job that won’t pay the bills or help career moves.