When we make decisions and are even considering options, people will always try to make us feel bad about what we want. This includes the people we care about most, along with people we don’t know so well. We’re judged for how we let certain things play out and for how we want them to.
You consider breaking up with your significant other, and your friends tell you how much they like him/her though. You feel you have to stay with them, because something is wrong with you.
You want to text that person you’ve been trying to make plans with. Unprompted many times our friends will pressure us into doing things how they would. As friends we have to learn the balance of giving advice when needed/asked and simply listening. But there is numerous times our friends will keep us from coming off as a stage 5 clinger.
Our families will guilt us into staying closer or calling more when we do the best we can. On the note of calling, we all can probably do better. However, the reality of life takes over. We have to call when we can and move where our heart calls us.
When coming out as gay or another part of the queer community, someone ends up upset that you didn’t tell them a certain way, or you told people in certain order. No one can and could dictate how and when I felt I comfortable with disclosing this information. Our loves ones should just be supportive that we were courageous and loved ourselves enough to be who we we’re meant to be.
People judge us for where we work. Many times people have negatively questioned me about where I work, only to months later want the inside track to getting an interview themselves. One time I was speaking with someone about work, and he asked me about how I liked it as if I was hostage victim. Everyone has companies that work for them and nothing is as it seems from the outside always.
Point is. People will always try to tell you what to do or direct how you SHOULD have done things. It’s not their life though. If there was a magic formula, shouldn’t we all be the Oprah’s, Bill Gates and Beyonces of the world.
It’s our personal lives. Why let other people define them.
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